Body Positivity – A Bullshit Excuse

This post is going to be a hard pill to swallow for most. In today’s age we have begun to wussify ourselves to the point that we can’t be honest with others. Now lets be completely honest here. I AM A FAT MAN! That’s right, I am morbidly obese according to my BMI. Friends this is not healthy nor is it attractive. Yes, there is someone out there (Including my amazing wife) who will tell me I am attractive. From my wife I do believe it, but in the back of my mind do you not think I know that is her unconditional love speaking?

Fat bear

Let’s take this happy, fat bear for example. A symbol of strength and king of the forest. That bear will eat and store fat until winter, then he is going to go hibernate for months where all that stored fat will be used to keep him alive. Do we need stored fat to keep us alive? Yes of course! According to WebMD an average person who is moderately active should have a BMI of 18.6-24.9. The difference between us and that bear is that we do not hibernate and we do not need excess fat to keep us warm. We have technology!

As your BMI goes up, so does your risk of developing weight-related diseases, such as heart disease and diabetes. (To figure your BMI, use our calculator.)

I am going to get real here folks. My BMI as it stands is 43%! Now, I am extremely strong and I do have an increased bone density. My weight is 350lbs, and that is not healthy. I used to be in that “Body Positive” side of the masses. I’m big, loud and proud! I’m larger than life and everyone loves me. That is what you see on the outside of course.

I’m a bull!


On the inside though I am a mess, I hate my body, I have little energy, practically no stamina and I spend 10x more money a year than an average person with a healthy weight. I pay more for clothing, medical costs and even food than the average person. No one is to blame but myself. I let my self get sedated by fast food, television, video games and of course social media.

Now social media tells me I should be “Body Positive” or it’s wrong I spend more money than other people. Lets take the money into a factor first. My clothes need to fit my body, now yes most retail clothing is already marked up through the roof but if you think about it, my clothing takes 3x the amount of fabric and production. Medical costs have risen for myself in recent years. I let my body go so much that I now have high blood pressure and what I lovingly call “Fat Man Asthma” so now I am on prescription medications that cost money to regulate these things. Thankfully, I am not yet at risk for diabetes or any other diseases according to recent tests my doctor did. Food is more expensive do to over eating (which I am currently regulating) and sedation triggers. Who doesn’t like a 20pc nugget from McDonald’s while watching Babylon 5? BTW, that 20pc nugget that I had as a snack has 900 calories and almost 2000mg of sodium (salt)! That definitely wasn’t healthy.


So what did I do? For awhile I did nothing! I believed the bullshit social media and “friends” were telling me. I should love my body the way it is. I don’t need to be fit to be sexy. I don’t need to workout. It’s ok to be sedated and binge watch Star Trek or play video games all day long.


Living your life sedated by mass media, video games, television and social media is not ok! Your body is machine built for any and all extreme conditions that needs to be utilized as much as possible. Have you ever seen an old car on the side of the road? It’s dead, rusted and fading away. Is that how you really want to live your life? I didn’t think so. If we continue to listen to the masses of a wussified society that gives you a participation trophy for just making an effort then we will DIE! Living a sedated life and letting others tell you that is ok will KILL you. Just look at the effects Stanford Health says obesity has on your body.

  • High blood pressure – Additional fat tissue in the body needs oxygen and nutrients in order to live, which requires the blood vessels to circulate more blood to the fat tissue. This increases the workload of the heart because it must pump more blood through additional blood vessels. More circulating blood also means more pressure on the artery walls. Higher pressure on the artery walls increases the blood pressure. In addition, extra weight can raise the heart rate and reduce the body’s ability to transport blood through the vessels.
  • Diabetes – Obesity is the major cause of type 2 diabetes. This type of diabetes usually begins in adulthood but, is now actually occurring in children. Obesity can cause resistance to insulin, the hormone that regulates blood sugar. When obesity causes insulin resistance, the blood sugar becomes elevated. Even moderate obesity dramatically increases the risk of diabetes.
  • Heart disease – Atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries) is present 10 times more often in obese people compared to those who are not obese. Coronary artery disease is also more prevalent because fatty deposits build up in arteries that supply the heart. Narrowed arteries and reduced blood flow to the heart can cause chest pain (angina) or a heart attack. Blood clots can also form in narrowed arteries and cause a stroke.
  • Joint problems, including osteoarthritis – Obesity can affect the knees and hips because of the stress placed on the joints by extra weight. Joint replacement surgery, while commonly performed on damaged joints, may not be an advisable option for an obese person because the artificial joint has a higher risk of loosening and causing further damage.
  • Sleep apnea and respiratory problems – Sleep apnea, which causes people to stop breathing for brief periods, interrupts sleep throughout the night and causes sleepiness during the day. It also causes heavy snoring. Respiratory problems associated with obesity occur when added weight of the chest wall squeezes the lungs and causes restricted breathing. Sleep apnea is also associated with high blood pressure.
  • Cancer – In women, being overweight contributes to an increased risk for a variety of cancers including breast cancer, colon, gallbladder, and uterus. Men who are overweight have a higher risk of colon cancer and prostate cancers.
  • Metabolic syndrome – The National Cholesterol Education Program has identified metabolic syndrome as a complex risk factor for cardiovascular disease. Metabolic syndrome consists of six major components: abdominal obesity, elevated blood cholesterol, elevated blood pressure, insulin resistance with or without glucose intolerance, elevation of certain blood components that indicate inflammation, and elevation of certain clotting factors in the blood. In the US, approximately one-third of overweight or obese persons exhibit metabolic syndrome.
  • Psychosocial effects – In a culture where often the ideal of physical attractiveness is to be overly thin, people who are overweight or obese frequently suffer disadvantages. Overweight and obese persons are often blamed for their condition and may be considered to be lazy or weak-willed. It is not uncommon for overweight or obese conditions to result in persons having lower incomes or having fewer or no romantic relationships. Disapproval of overweight persons expressed by some individuals may progress to bias, discrimination, and even torment.



So finally when I was fed up with not being able to fully bend over and I tie my shoes I made a life choice to lose the fat and become a better, sexier and happier me. 2yrs ago I went gym hunting. I hated big box gyms like 24hr and planet fitness. I wanted to find a gym that fit me. I stepped into Metroflex, this gym was perfect! I even found a trainer Derrick, he pushed me and understood I wanted strength too. Working with him I lost 60lbs in 5 months and increased my strength exponentially. Unfortunately shortly later it closed and Derrick moved. So I broke down and a got a 24hr membership, continued working out and got stronger and stronger. Without Derrick yelling in my ear though I began to ate like crap again. This caused me to lose energy and motivation which led to where I am now. Back to 350lbs and fighting to lose weight yet again.

Part of my lack of motivation came from many things. One of the biggest things I would have to say though was everyone telling me to quit pushing myself so hard. I am a big guy and should love it. BODY POSITIVE BULLSHIT! That’s right I was stuck back in that same rut of social media and Netflix.

Today, I am working on losing the weight again and succeeding because 1. The Brotherhood and 2. I no longer will listen to the body positive BS that is a small part of the wussification of our society. I have started back with Kung-Fu again, started using the Runtastic Results app which I highly recommend and watching what kind of fuel I put into my body.

So friends, I ask you. NO, I beg you! If you see someone you truly care about destroying their body, accepting the body positive BS or just living a sedated life. Invite them for a walk each day or maybe join you at the gym. The biggest thing I have noticed being a fat man is that being alone is our biggest enemy. It’s the void controlling are actions. I’m not saying to go around and call them names but just positively shove them to better their bodies.

Have a great night! ~JJ

Written by JJ Steelman